I really thought I would want to kick the door shut on 2013, a year that came roaring in with a cancer battle, months of chemotherapy treatments followed by a bilateral mastectomy and failed reconstruction.
I blogged about my diagnosis and treatment last May, just 2 days before I learned the reconstruction had gone wrong. Instead of winding down the breast cancer experience, I was now starting anew.
There’s not much public discussion of failed reconstruction. Surgeons often like to trash each other: “Oh, I always have to fix his/her mess.” The truth is: breast cancer is a messy business. Reconstruction failures are not uncommon. Mine seemed very random.
In my case, my body rejected the internal “slings” that hold the new construction in place after everything else is removed in a 5 1/2 hour surgery.
The “slings” are made of repurposed sterilized cadaver tissue, an inert substance brought back to life by soaking in water. Once placed in the body, a network of newly grown blood vessels integrate the tissue. Occasionally there is a failure to “integrate” with one of the slings.
I failed to integrate both slings, something my two surgeons said “we’ve never seen before.”
Because the slings were literally disintegrating internally they had to be removed, along with everything else that had been put into place for reconstruction. Just four weeks after my double mastectomy, I was back in the OR for 2 1/2 hours, one of which was dedicated to sanitizing my open chest with shower heads.
Over the next weeks, the skin healed, but without any fat or tissue beneath it, internal scar tissue formed causing the skin to adhere to my rib cage.
I was no longer a candidate for reconstruction, but I could certainly channel Mick Jagger with my new androgynous figure, that is, had it not been for the toll taken on my shoulders.
Two torn rotator cuffs later I decided the cause had to be a combination of chemotherapy, muscles pulling in new directions and a newly degraded posture.
So why would I dare say 2013 was a great year?
First and foremost, I got to make decisions that saved my life.
Secondly, I got to see the music group I discovered online and proposed to my husband and his business partner to manage, explode. ThePianoGuys hit Billboard’s top 20 and now have over 300 million views on YouTube. Along the way, we toured Berlin, Amsterdam, Istanbul, Singapore, Shanghai and Beijing where they produced a stunning music video on The Great Wall. The PBS concert I produced and directed for them had over 1900 airings across the network. Most importantly, I love them personally.
In 2013 I took over management of a book manuscript written by an old friend who was set on self publishing. I redirected a more traditional publishing and marketing plan that put Johnny Carson by Henry Bushkin (Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Oct 15 2013) on the NYT best seller list for weeks and was listed as #6 on Janet Maslin’s best books of the year. People Magazine also listed it among the best books of the year.
And there’s still more. As part of the executive producing team, I got to help Nik Wallenda realize his dream to walk across the Grand Canyon before a television audience of 20 million viewers, the largest ever live audience for Discovery.
So how can I say I didn’t love 2013, surrounded by so much brilliance and creativity — especially the gang I ended the year with in Milan where on December 30th I underwent an experimental stem cell treatment to repair both rotator cuffs and prepare the skin on my chest for reconstruction. Ironically, I learned about these new treatments through my work as a founding member of TheCureAlliance, a non-profit group of elite doctors and research scientists who have banded together to share knowledge, break down barriers and find cures for all diseases in the 21st century. After the new year, I’ll be writing about the important research breakthrough that is benefiting me and many others.
Until then, Ciao!
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December 31, 2013 at 7:27 pm
Honey Moga
Talk about making lemonade out of lemons! WOW! GO FOR IT, GIRL!
I’m so proud and happy for you! Honey Moga
December 31, 2013 at 8:26 pm
Gerri
Shelley, I’ve never loved or been more in awe of you than now. Wishing you Happy New Year. You are amazing. Love, Gerri
January 1, 2014 at 2:40 pm
Pamela Bozanich
Happy New Year and Happy new Rotator Cuffs And Boobies!
Love You, Pam
January 1, 2014 at 4:45 pm
Frank
Wow, Shelley! Quite a year. I am sorry about the health issues, but glad you are on the road back. And happy for your successes. You are amazing.
January 2, 2014 at 8:55 pm
Susan Winston
And I thought I had a tough year — Wow, Shelley! Stay healthy. That’s the important part.
Susan
January 3, 2014 at 2:38 am
judalon
You are always amazing, always productive and so deserving of the love, joy, support and brilliance that surrounds you. Here’s to you and an a wonderful 2014!
January 4, 2014 at 8:17 pm
Marianne Stack
Shelley, you have been an inspiration to me since you walked into the LA bureau trying out various hair extensions in the weeks before your wedding. I’d never met anyone with hair extensions before. Fast forward to today and good Lord, Shelley, you are still setting standards for all of us. I love you, Shelley, and wish you and all your new parts a fabulous 2014. Big hugs, Marianne xx
January 9, 2014 at 6:56 pm
Tony Brenna
Gosh, Shelley, didn’t know you were going thru all that stuff. It sounds hellish, but you have apparently pulled through amazingly well. Good luck to you in the New Year and lets hope all your parts come together successfully. Very Sincerely, Tony Brenna.
January 11, 2014 at 6:46 pm
Steve Thomas
Shelley, you continue to inspire me! And you remind me of the Henry Ford quote: “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right”. Your perseverance and ability to “think you can” are incredible, and I will always have tremendous respect for you in so many regards !! / Steve in Sarasota Florida xo
January 14, 2014 at 2:01 pm
Linda McLoof
Shelley Ross – you are an amazing person with an abolutely outstanding attitude that will guide you well going forward. You have my respect & support forever.
Linda McLoof